June 20, 2007
Ron and the Blame Game... Take the Time for a Daily
Affirmation... Five Secrets to Getting More from Working
Less... and More.
** Ron and the Blame Game
By Adrian Newman, Founder of e-Wealth Daily
An old friend of mine, Ron, called me yesterday. I haven't
heard from him in about five years and, even then, I hadn't
spoken to him that much.
When we were younger, we were close friends with common
goals of big dreams. As kids, we even tried to start a bike
courier business (never got off the ground) and were always
thinking about our next business venture together. The one thing with Ron is that he was always a big talker. I
mean, this guy loved to tell you about the car he was going to
buy, the mansion he planned to own; and, of course, the
women he planned to date.
Big plans and big dreams. The only thing holding him back,
according to him, was that everyone was trying to bring him
down.
As we talked, I listened to him rhyme off all the businesses he's
tried to start or jobs he's landed that ended up in failure, all
because someone else either screwed up or had it in for him.
For example, he recently tried marketing natural foods to the
big supermarket chains, only to fail because "those jerks just
wanted me to fail so they could pick up my business and run
with it."
He tried playing online poker, but claimed "the web sites are
all crooked and wouldn't let me win."
Those are just two of the five or six I-was-on-my-way-until-
someone-else-ruined-it stories I heard in the span of a 20-minute phone call.
I asked him, "So, Ron, every time you’re heading to the top,
someone else always comes along and ruins in for you. How
can you make sure this won’t happen again?"
He answered, "Man, I don’t know."
You see, Ron is a classic case of someone who is constantly
blaming someone else for their failures. What he doesn't realize
is that he's the author of his own demise.
I look at it two ways: Either he's failing on his own and
blaming other people for it, or he’s creating relationships with
people who aren't respectable, who are bound to deceive him
later on. From what I know about Ron, it's probably a bit of
both.
But whatever reason, the onus of the blame lands squarely on
his shoulders. I realize that 99% of what happens in my life,
good or bad, is by my own accord.
For example, if I lose all my money in a bad investment, it's
my own fault for not doing my homework on the company. If I
lose my job and struggle financially, it's my own fault for not
stashing a little bit of money away every month as an
emergency fund.
On the flip side, if I get a raise or a promotion, it's by my own
accord and hard work that I got that reward.
Anyhow, I wished Ron luck in his new job. I really hope this
one is the big one for him. He really is a nice guy. He just
needs to start taking responsibility for his failures as much as
he does for his success.
** Take the Time for a Daily Affirmation
By Doug D'Anna, the "Hundred-Million-Dollar Man"
To discover the power of believing in yourself — and to make
that power grow stronger every day — I want to encourage you
to commit a few minutes each evening (or during any other
convenient time) to affirm your self-worth in order to help you
realize your successes, no matter how small or large they may
be. It might seem like a silly exercise for some of you, but I
guarantee that the results will be well worth the effort.
I have put together a few questions that you can ask yourself at
the end of every day. The answers will come easily to you
when you start doing this on a regular basis — and once you get
past the hesitancy that some of you may have about celebrating
your achievements.
The ticket is to build your confidence and to start feeling good
about yourself, even on days when you're feeling a bit down or
when you're feeling a lot of stress or pressure. At the end of the
day, you have to put the day's events in perspective. Take this
time to acknowledge your achievements and to determine how
to solve the challenges in your life.
The more confident you are in your abilities, the more success
you will naturally attract. The less stressed out that you feel,
the more you can get done in a day — and the better you will
feel mentally and physically. The more positively you see
yourself, the more positively others will see you. So go ahead
and ask yourself the following:
— What was your most positive achievement today? — What's
your plan to spin that success into more accomplishments and
achievements? — Did you face a challenge today and overcome
it? What was it? How did you overcome this challenge? —
What's your game plan for tomorrow? — What made you feel
good about yourself today?
It's an easy formula, and you will see results if you commit to
putting it to work in your life. It will only take a few minutes of
your time to do this. You can write out the answers or simply
acknowledge them in your mind. Review the day's events and
the things that you did well, the people you impressed, the
challenges you faced, and anything else that was positive about
it. This is a time where you can plan for the next day and settle
your mind and body. It will help you feel relaxed and good
about yourself.
** Five Secrets to Getting More from Working Less
By Michael Newman, the "Money Finder"
It seems to me that a lot of people who are looking to break
free from their current jobs are making a very common
mistake.
You see, after breaking their back for years and working
overtime at their previous job, they weren't getting anywhere
near the amount of payback they felt they deserved.
What happens next is they find a business opportunity and dive
right in, wearing themselves out working the same
backbreaking hours and most likely not getting the kind of
payouts they hoped they would.
Don't get me wrong, hard work and dedication are essential.
But when it comes to managing your time, sometimes less is
more. Let me explain.
- Have a good idea of what is going on, but don't
micromanage everything. Running your own business and
starting your own income streams can be pretty hectic at times. Now, you may not always feel like you're in complete control, and this can be a good thing. Keep an eye on where money is going and where it is coming from, just don't expect to have complete control... you'll burn out from all the stress.
- Figure out what your optimum work time is. Some people
work best early in the morning and like to have the rest of the day to complete less important tasks. And other people are exactly the opposite. Determine when you
are at your best daily and use that time to focus on one specific task.
- Make a to-do list, but keep it short. I've seen a few of these lists in my days that have looked more like an inventory list for a giant department store and less like an achievable list of items to do in one day. I recommend doing three or four things in a day, this way you won't feel overwhelmed just by reading through your list.
- One item on that list should have big money potential. Now, there are some tasks you'll be doing that won't make much difference to the amount of money you make, and then there are the whoppers that really could make or break your next cash infusion. So give yourself on of those big tasks each day and save the rest of your time for the smaller stuff. Juggling the big guys each day means you're risking more if you happen to drop the ball.
- Realize that you may not always finish what you planned
out in the morning. There are only so many hours in a day — 24, to be exact — and you can only work for so many of them before your begin to slow down and lose focus. Determine how long you can effectively work during the day and stick to that time frame. If you don't get everything done, just carry that task over to the next day and get some much-needed rest.
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